Divorcing With Sanity

  He was the one who cheated, but he won’t let you go I understand how perplexing that is. What in the world does he want?? I understand how that makes you feel like your freedom is at this mercy. I understand how painful this can be, that he seems to only know how to express himself in ways that hurt you more and more. I also understand how it exhausts you, because every single time he changes his mind, you have to start again emotionally, mentally, physically.   The torturous part about this is somewhere in the dark crevices of your mind, you secretly wonder whether his ambivalence means something. “Perhaps I am the one he truly loves? Perhaps it was a pure mistake? People make mistakes right? Doesn’t everyone deserve a second chance? Does it make me the bad person if I leave without trying to make it work?”   A true story A client of mine lived this psychotic insanity for years, before she started coaching with me. In the course of her coaching program, her husband cha...

[Image: A drawing of what my sanity looked like back in 2009 - and we weren't even divorcing yet.] A 1968 study found that teachers make around 1,500 educational decisions per day. Yup. And that was in 1968. Imagine what the number is like now! Should I move that kid? Should I call on her now or wait? Do I blow up at them now? Should I scrap this lesson and try something different? How can I restructure my lesson to match the kids’ energies today? Half the class didn’t do their homework - what else can I do? Do I bring them to the bathroom now? A thousand of these. All before lunchtime. For a teacher who is going through divorce, this is only half your life. The REAL Life-Changing Decisions (+1,500) After the school bell rings, the other half is waiting. How much alimony should I be asking for? What kind of custody arrangements should I set that is best for my children? How are we going to settle the assets and joint bank accounts? Am I asking for too much? Am I asking for too litt...